Alan David Oarr
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Alan David Oarr, age 54, of Yankton, South Dakota, and formerly of Fulton County, New York, died Wednesday, November 13, 2013 at his residence after a courageous fight with cancer.

Memorial services are 10:30 AM, Monday, November 18, 2013 at Christ the King Lutheran Church in Yankton with Reverend Dani Jo Ninke officiating. The family will receive friends one hour prior to the memorial service at the church. Inurnment will be in the Yankton Cemetery at a later date. Arrangements are under the direction of the Wintz & Ray Funeral Home and Cremation Service in Yankton.

Alan was born July 23, 1959 in Amsterdam, New York to Clarence and Norma (Smith) Oarr. Prior to moving to Yankton in 2010, he was employed at Lee Dye, Hawkins Fabric, and Continental Mills. Alan was an avid CB enthusiast, going by the handle of Mr. Coffee. He proudly served in the US Army and was stationed at Fort Benning, Georgia. Alan loved animals, music, fishing and helping others. He was also an active member of Christ the King Lutheran Church in Yankton.

Alan is survived by his daughter, Erica Doucette of Delaware; Michael Innes Oarr of New York; father, Clarence Oarr of Gloversville, NY; two brothers, Brian Oarr of Nevada and Stephen Oarr of Gloversville, NY; two sisters, Kathleen Smith of North Carolina and Christine Eggleston of Fort Plain, NY; and his soul mate, Vickie Lammers of Yankton and her family which he considered as his own.

Alan was preceded in death by his mother, Norma Oarr.




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My dearest & heartfelt sympathies to all of Alan's family. Stay strong Vickie we are all here for you if not in person but spiritually& emotionally. The Lord has gained a very special angel to help look over us all. RIP Alan, you will be truly missed. XOXO <3

Cathhy Rimshaw


Daddy, I love and miss you so very much.You always loved and cared for me so dearly. You are my world and always will be. You were taken from me so soon. I'll never forget all you taught me. You were very intelligent. Your love was so everlasting. You always knew how to make me laugh. God loves you somuch that now you have a new body and a new place to live with him for all eternity. You will be in my mind and heart for ever. When I was cold you knew and you covered me with a blanket, when I was hungry, you fed me, when I was thirsty, you gave me a drink, you always kept me safe.Your love was priceless. When I asked you to pray with you did. When I asked you to pray and ask for forgivness and ask God to come into your heart and save you so many years ago, now because of your faith and your love for your creator he rewarded you with everlasting life. I smile knowing that you now live in heaven. You touched so many lives with you thoughtfulness and kindness. We will see each other in heaven and when we do I'll be waiting for a hug from you. Enjoy your new life with Jesus, tell him I love him as much as you did and I be waiting for a hug from him. Say hello to him for me. See you soon Dad. Thank you for everything you've done for me. I love You.

Your loving Daughter Erica M. Doucette (Oarr)


What I wouldn't give to have more time with Al! His love for his family and perfect strangers was inspirational to me. I feel so blessed to have gotten to know him. I hurt inside when Al was going through this horrible thing called cancer. I know for certain he is with his mother and Jesus in heaven. Jimmy and I miss him more than words can say. Simon will surely miss him when he realizes he will not be around anymore. He used to call Jimmy "Dr Jimmy" and Simon, "Angel boy". It was so special to me and I hold these memories close to my heart. I love you Al. You were a much better person than I. I hope one day I can love so purely and so selflessly like you did.

Heather Fillaus


To all who have loved and cared for my dear, sweet brother Alan...I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Vickie...my thoughts are with you as you go through this difficult time.

Christine Oarr Eggleston


My deepest sympathies to the family and Vickie. I know it is very hard to loose someone you love so much. Sometimes it doesn't make any sense to us. I do believe that God has his plans for us and that we have to believe that some day we will meet our loved ones again. That is what keeps me going and I am sure you will see that when the grief gets better for you. My prayers are with you. Alan and I met playing Cafe World on FB and there were nights that we would chat and we became friends. He was a sweet man even tho I had never met him in person but felt that I really knew him. My mom also chatted with him as well and so we felt like he was a family friend to us. We will miss him terribly and feel the sadness in our hearts too. I wish I could come to his services. I will be there in mind and spirit. Much love to his family and friends.. Vickie, I am always here for you.

Maureen Larrabee


Sending prayers of comfort to all of Alan's family. He was a wonderful friend and will be greatly missed. Rest in peace dear Alan. Hugssss

Thelma Martin (Sissy)


I WILL NEVER FORGET YOUR KINDNESS AND COMPASSION WHEN I NEEDED IT MOST,,YOU WERE ALWAYS THERE WITH KIND WORDS,THAT MADE MY DAY A LITTLE BRIGHTER,RIP, MY DEAR FRIEND,,BERTIE

BERTIE BRINK


Words seem inadequate to express the sadness we feel about Alan's death. We are here to support you in your grieving process. With sincere sympathy,

Gabriele Bihrer


At 13n of November 2013 heaven gained another angel. Alan Oarr will not be forgotten. My deepest condolences to you Vickie and to Al's family. May Lord bless and comfort you all. Rest in peace my dear friend Al.

With love Effie Kyratsu


with deepest sympathy to the family and long time companion vickie, alan is now in heaven being one of gods angel, may you all keep alans memories alive,

lisa helton


Prayers to Alan's family and Vickie. Stand strong Vickie as we are here for you in our hearts and emotionally. Alan, you will be truly missed <3

Jenny Green


Our deepest sympathy to you Vickie ad Alan's family. He is loved and will be missed.

Colleen Tommeraasen


RIP dear Alan you will be greatly missed may you find eternal peace in heaven

Nora Koeppel


There are no words to express the sorrow you are going though right now,just know that we are all thinking of you at this very sad time and Alan is in pain no more,He is with the Angels now looking down on us . We will all miss him very much. We are here for you Vickie anytime you need someone. RIP Alan We will miss you friend.

Vi Underhill


Alan...you will be missed so much. I cherished our friendship, you were always there for me and I tried to do the same during some of your struggles before you met the love of your life..Vickie Lammers. To see the smiles on your faces in all the pictures that I ever saw of the two of you and how very highly you spoke of her brought joy to my heart. I know you are in heaven now and no longer in pain and I also know that someday I will get to meet you in person. Until then all those that loved you will turn our thoughts and prayers towards the woman you loved so deeply. I am here if you ever need someone Vickie..you will always be in my prayers. Rest In Peace Alan.....you are truly missed!!!

Cheryl Bracken aka butterfly7954


Please accept my sympathies to you dear Vickie and Alan's family. May God give you comfort during this time of grief and sorrow. Alan will be missed by those who were fortunate enough to come across his path. Rest in the arms of our Lord dear friend.

Linda A. Johnson


RIP Alan

Anne, Irene and Joe

Joe D'Aliesio


Dearest Vickie, I just watched the memorial video and although I had seen many of the pictures throughout the years being posted by Alan or you, I had never had the privilege to personally here Alan's voice or meet him in person. To have the tribute to you in his own words was so touching and helped me put a voice to the words Alan and I had many times in our communications. These next months will be tough ones for you so please reach out to all of your CAFE friends and family. My thoughts and prayers with you daily. Love and hugs and RIP Alan.

Judy Horn


Please accept my sympathies to you my precious one Vickie, whom i really cherish and Alan's family. The video was very precious. Vickie, you have so many memories with Alan and he will always be in your heart. May God give you and all of the family comfort during this time. Alan was a delight to all of us and when we chatted, it was all about you Vickie who was the gift of love to him. Alan will be missed by me and many who really knew him. One day, I will meet Alan in person and you Vickie --- God bless you all at this time. I do know that Alan is with our Lord Jesus --- Rest in peace my dear friend

Sue Shaffer


Our deepest sympathy to Vickie and the family. He was such a kind person. I never met him in person but chatted with him. It was like chatting with a person you knew for years. He was loved and will be greatly missed. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this time. God bless you and keep you.

Cheryl Shillcutt


My heartfelt sympathies..to Vickie and all of Allen,s family..i never met Allen face to face..but it was a heart connection of friendship..his love and concern came through the words he typed to us.thankyou for the vidio ..it gave me a small peek into his life..may GOD Bless you all with comfort and love..

Joanne Lesher


what a beautiful tribute to Alan, you will be greatly missed RIP

janice Intromasso


This tribute is beautiful. Al, you will be missed so much, you have been like a brother to me since we met at Grab years ago. Your suffering is over, you're with the lord now. My heartfelt condolences to Vickie and your family. May you RIP dear friend.

Lisa E Zimmerman


I would like to say from my family to your's that you may miss the love and devotion that Alan gave you but to know he is in a better place and in no more pain is a god send, I know these are small comfort words to you and your's but all i can say is RIP Alan you will be sorely missed

Jennie Primor


I have many wonderful memories growing up with Alan in Gloversville, New York in the late 60's and 70's. He was a true friend and a gentle giant for the smaller people, myself included. We were the best of friends. From grade school through adult hood, CB's and cars, and girlfriends, he will always be a huge part of my existence. He will live on in more ways than you know. Respectfully, Stephen B. Pellegrino, originally from Gloversville, NY, now residing in Florida. Peace be with your family Alan, and thank you for your many years of friendship.

Stephen B. Pellegrino


Alan..you are going to be missed. Although I have never met you in person, I feel like I have known you forever. Through our games and chats on FB, you became a friend. My prayers go out to Vickie and all of the family. I know everyone is going through a tough time, but our Dear Lord wanted him and needed him more. What a beautiful tribute.

Mary Davis


Prayers to David's family...we will miss you on facebook my friend...RIP David....

Mary Morgan


Dearest Vicki, Words may be of little comfort to you right now, but please know that Alan will be missed by so many of his F.B. friends. We may not of known him in person but feel that we did. And the same goes for you. I know that you are hurting right now and missing him. There is no timetable for that. Maybe knowing he doesn't hurt might help some. Being left behind can be the hardest part. But if it helps, I truly believe we will all be together again one day. If you need help you can reach out to your F.B. family. We will help with what we can. Take care.

Debbie Hahn


I am so happy you found happiness with Vickie, you deserved that. I will always remember you fondly, you always made me smile. I shall miss you my friend.xx

ceri (wolfie1) Barrass


you were a dear friend, Alan i'll miss you

maureen(willow)


Alan, you were a wonderful blessing to so many in the family. I know you are smiling in heaven and will always love my Aunt Vickie and family. Love in Christ, Audrey

Audrey Jaramillo


Alan I'm lost for words You were always loved by so many people and you gave so much to so many people who were in your life. No matter what friends or family gave you you took it as a wonderful thing in life. Alan you were a wonderful , caring , thoughtful man who loved life as it was. You will missed and loved who knew you.God bless you Vickie for standing by him and being there for him. god bless the family and friends. R.I.P God Bless You Alan , Your angels have you wrap in their wings and loving you unconditional

Love Suzanne (Socialbutterfly)


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